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John,
My dad passed you on his way home from work and after you left my place two days ago
(on Thursday). He was waiting to turn off Crescent Road onto 140th Street when he saw you coming
down the hill on 140th. He waved at you but you didn’t see him, he figured that you were
probably concentrating on trying to watch the traffic.
I think that was another good day we had the last time you saw me two days ago. I think we
had better service at Dairy Queen this time than the service we got the last time I had onion
rings there, it didn’t take as long this time to get my onion rings and they brought them right
to our table. No stomach problems so far. Sometime within the next few weeks, we’ll do PART TWO
of onion ring taste-test...A&W
Here is an excerpt from the message I sent you on Tuesday Feb.26,2008:
> And for your information, John, I've had a bit more interaction with my dad lately.
Especially yesterday. I came and saw
> him in the family room for just a few brief couple second long periods, once after he looked
at your message titled “Fw:
> 7 Amazing Holes” when he had left it up on the screen so I went into the family room to ask
him if he was done and if
> it would be okay that I close it down. Another time yesterday evening while my camera was in
the middle of charging, I
> went into the family room to ask my dad if it would be okay to unplug it so that I could take
that picture I told you I took
> of what you built and then I told him that I would plug it back in to finish charging once I’m
done. He said that it should
> have enough charge for just a still picture if I want to unplug it and take one and then plug
it back in when I’m
> done. Funny thing was I had then realized after this that my camera was charging in the
downstairs computer room
> and I had enough cord that I didn’t even need to unplug it to do what I wanted to do.
As you can see, no problems at that time. And now the excerpt from the message that I sent
you on Saturday Mar.1,2008:
> ...However, my dad just finished vacuuming while I’m here in the computer room and as soon as
I heard him turn off the
> vacuum I opened the door and asked him if he was done. He said “yep” and then a few minutes
after that he said quote
> “I’m all done” so I then asked him why he said it twice. He said quote “because that’s just
the way I talk.” He then said
> after that the first time he just said “yep” was just to answer my question that I asked him
“are you done” and then the
> second time he said “I’m all done” because he was all done with the vacuum for today. This
sounded like a clear enough
> answer to me, but after I got the answer I had wanted he wouldn’t stop and just kept going on
about saying things like
> “this is the way he talks” etc. I don’t know anybody else who talks in that same way or who
goes on about the way that
> they talk...
Here are a few times similar to the one in the last above excerpt:
-There was one time almost a year ago (in March of 2007) when my mom was making me one of
her homemade salads for supper with cheese and lunchmeat. About a half hour before it was time
to eat, I heard my mom say that she bought two different kinds of chicken. I thought that she
was talking about chicken lunchmeat so I then said to her that it’s okay for this time but try
to buy just one kind of chicken the next time. She then said “okay.” When it was time to eat a
half hour later, I saw the salad for the first time and the only kind of lunchmeat she put on
that one was ham. I asked her why she said “two different kinds of chicken” when I saw ham
lunchmeat on my salad. She then said that she never said that (about her buying two
different kinds of chicken). politely and calmly asked her if she meant that she bought two
different kinds of ham, but she then lashed out and yelled “No.” I found out a few minutes later
that when she said that earlier about buying two different kinds of chicken she meant that she
bought two different kinds instead of just one kind of chicken for whatever she was making for
herself and my dad for supper that night. As soon as I found this out I couldn’t get her to
explain to me why she couldn’t say something that it was for her and dad’s supper when it should
have been obvious to her that I thought she was talking about me if she heard me say to buy just
one the next time and she then said “okay,” so I then got angry. I told you a few times in
previous message that there was one other time while Carol was still my worker when my parents
grabbed the phone from me when I tried to call her, this was the other time. It wasn’t too long
after I first got angry when I tried to call her. After my parents grabbed the phone from me, I
got even more angry and continued to hit my mom a lot more.
-There was also the time when I said in the message that I sent you
on Wednesday
Feb.13,2008 about “I had asked my mom just one little question
about the Christmas village one afternoon in November 2006 and she had to pick a fight about
it.”
-Of course there was also the time when she had
her “mental episode” a
little more than a month ago.
-And most recently, last Friday morning (the 29th) when I told my mom that I wanted to
postpone our dinner because I wasn’t feeling well. She had to make a little bit of a fuss about
it saying that I should have a better sleep the next night (before Saturday) and it took
me a few more times to convince her that I wasn’t up to it before she finally agreed to
postpone. I don’t know if whether or not she was trying to start a confrontation then. If I do
end up living somewhere else at some point, I’d rather live with people who are more flexible
about canceling something if I’m not feeling well and am just not up to it.
My mom thought that losing control might be one thing that Serena could work on with me, but
I don’t see that being necessary because I think that my parents do things that make me more
angry like the first two examples I gave above which were both times when they had actually
managed to start a confrontation. Again, I said once previously that I don’t think it would be
necessary in my opinion to continue seeing the behavioral specialist on a regular basis,
especially once I’m living with Carol if I could live with her. And Serena phoned my dad at work
two days ago (on Thursday morning) speaking about whom, she didn’t setup another visit
yet but she asked which kind of things that my parents think she should work on with me.
You said two days ago that you thought my dad might be absentminded. I think he’s a bit more
absentminded than a lot of other people. And if one of my parents ever did get Alzheimer’s, I
would hope to live somewhere else where whoever I’m living with would have more time to spend
with me. You also said that if I do go live somewhere else you’re sure that almost anyone I end
up living with would try to help me and I’d still get it good, but I got it even better where
I’m living now. All the more reason for Carol to be the one that I should live with, I would
hope to have things pretty much the same as they are now if I could ever live with her. I know I
got it good where I am now after you said for example “about my parents clean the cats’ litter
boxes for me” and here is what I said about renovating the place where I live now in the message
I sent you on Sunday Feb.24,2008:
> ...I had hoped to stay in this house as long as I could and for my parents to care for me
until they’re too old to do
> so, I always felt comfortable around and enjoyed being with my parents whenever there wasn’t
an altercation. I had
> also hoped to stay in this house at least until the entire place is renovated, I’ll miss
picking the furniture...
And what I said in the message that I sent you on Tuesday Feb.26,2008:
> ...And my mom told me the night before yesterday that if I have my own place I could decorate
it the way I want it to
> look, so I already was aware of that before you came here and told me the same thing
yesterday. I was kind of hoping
> to finish renovating this house though before moving onto the next place.
You know that it takes me a long time to get over altercations, sometimes up to a few months.
And that’s the reason why I have thoughts about wanting to live somewhere else after most
altercations. You know that there’s eventually another altercation once I’m back to my old
routine after getting over a previous one and I’m
serious when I say that “I don’t want to have to go through another
period ever again while just spending a long time not doing anything.”
Even though you said two days ago that I don’t get cheesed off every time when I’m
waiting for the right answer that I want, I do feel worried inside every time when these things
start up that I could get cheesed off and start an altercation. What I’m saying is that I don’t
know for sure until after I get my answer in the end if it’s even a time when I do get an
explanation in the end) that there won’t be an altercation. Sometimes when if it’s a situation
like one of these two following examples, my mom thinks that I keep asking her to explain
herself and won’t stop until I get the answer that I’m expecting. I say that’s not true, it
should be obvious to her that I just want a clear answer that makes sense and one that’s not
hard for me to understand.
-If I ask my mom two questions (one question at a time) and she answers the first
question correctly, I then ask her the second question and she gives me the same answer that she
gave to the first question even if this question had completely nothing to do with the first one.
-Or if I change subjects and ask my mom a bunch more questions after I ask her one question and
she doesn’t give me the right answer the first time and then she gives me the right answer the
second time I ask her the same question, she’ll answer all of the next bunch of questions by
saying that she gave me the right answer (“the right answer” referring to when she
answered my question the second time and before I changed subjects) even if the next bunch of
questions I ask her have completely nothing to do with the very first question I asked her. It
seems like every time when we go through the type of situation described in this one example,
she thinks that I don't appreciate the right answer that she gives me even if it’s obvious to
her that I know she gave me a clear answer the second time I asked the question.
I don’t know why it isn’t obvious to her to answer right the first time when she was the one
who started this by giving me the same answer to the second question that she gave to the first
question I asked her.
My mom told me after you left two days ago that my dad has a dentist appointment this
morning (Saturday the 8th). I didn’t know he had a dentist appointment this weekend until
she told me then, but after I told my mom that this was the first I heard about it she then said
that she was pretty sure she said something about it to me earlier this last week at one point
when we were talking about the coming weekend. I couldn’t convince her that I’m pretty sure I
don’t remember her saying anything to me. She eventually realizes that maybe she was thinking
about the time after he got his tooth looked at a few weeks ago when she then told me they’d
check it at his six month checkup coming up in a few weeks after then. I don’t remember her
telling me this then either, but I still couldn’t convince her.
Even though you said that Scott and me are complete opposites because I like things to be
quiet while he likes louder noises such as monster trucks or I like to sleep in while he likes
to get up early, I know that one thing we both have in common is that neither of us like change
but I think I can deal with change a bit better than Scott. If Scott’s not happy after he finds
out something that had been planned for “today” won’t happen on that day even if he knows it
might happen the next day. I know for one thing that you know I know you’re not an air traffic
controller and because you’re not one I agree with you that Scott shouldn’t be cheesed off at
you if you guys find out as soon as you get to the airport that a certain plane he had
looked forward to see is not there, I’m more flexible and can adjust in these types of
situations. I can also understand about you taking Scott to the airport every second week now
instead of every week, I’m in favour of supporting the environment. Or if Scott does
still want to continue going out to the airport every week, maybe you should encourage him to
try and take the bus which is one way to support the environment. Maybe he’ll have better luck
with buses not like me who you previously read why I lost my confidence in doing bus trips.
I guess now the day program’s not gunna start at least until after Scott’s back home and
after you had hoped to have it up and running at the end of February. My mom thought that it’s
pretty good of you to do this for Scott because she knows that it would be hard for him
somewhere else, and I guess that you’re probably one of very few people who would do something
like this. Maybe you should have some kind of a permanent emergency bed downstairs at that house
instead of putting six cushions together and then putting a sheet over them. I think something
like this might’ve helped a few months ago if there was an emergency bed at Carol’s house and if
Carol could leave her job temporarily.
My mom hasn’t been feeling well the last few days, she had the sniffles and was coughing
before you came on Thursday and then she was a bit worse yesterday. She’s not any better today
and I hope she’ll feel well enough to take me Easter shopping on Tuesday afternoon. I already
saw the Save-On flyer which shows just some of the Easter stuff that they have in their bulk
section and now I’m looking forward:
-Cadbury Mini Eggs (I saw these in the Save-On flyer, but they’re not in bulk...they’re sold in
small packages. And these come in either creme or caramel, but I prefer just the regular milk
chocolate filled ones which they also show in their flyer in individual small packages.)
-Easter Solid Milk Chocolate Eggs (These are the foil wrapped eggs, but I probably won’t get any
of these because out of all the places that sell foil wrapped chocolate eggs at Easter I think
that Purdys eggs are made from the best quality chocolate.)
-Dare Rabbit Ju Jubes (I remember last year at Easter I got two different kinds of rabbit heads
from the Save-On-Foods bulk section, one were gummies and I think these Dare ones might have
been the other thing. And I think it was these Dare ones that was my preference out of the two.)
-Hershey Robins Mini Eggs (If these are how they describe the HERSHEY’S EGGIES at Easter, then
I’ll probably get either these or the Cadbury Mini Eggs.)
In addition to the things on the above list, I also got a few jelly candies from the Save-On
bulk section last year at Easter. I’m not sure if they have them this year though again they
didn’t show everything in their flyer that they have in their bulk section. And I like to
get the Smartie eggs every year at Easter. I’m also thinking about getting an Easter cake,
hopefully a Safeway one if Safeway even does the kind of round double-layer cake for Easter that
I like and that comes in either white or chocolate. Safeway better do this kind of cake this
Easter after not getting my Valentines Day one that you know I wanted, lately our Safeway flyer
comes on Fridays and we didn’t get one yesterday. As soon as our next Safeway flyer does come, I
plan to look in it and see if they have any Easter cakes or Saint Patrick's Day cookies out yet.
I had an orange iced double-layer chocolate cake from Safeway at Halloween last October
(Oct 2007) which also came in either white or chocolate and for my mom’s birthday last
March (also 2007) we got a double-layer Chocolate Truffle Cake from Safeway which is pretty
much the same as the double-layer chocolate Halloween and Valentines Day cakes. They also had a
double-layer cake at Safeway a few months ago for Christmas which came in either white or
chocolate, but we didn’t end up getting that one because my mom had made her Devil's food
cupcakes. This was the first time I had ever had Devil's food and didn’t know until my mom made
the cupcakes if I would like it, so I had said to her before I tried my first Devil's food
cupcake that if I didn’t like the cupcakes I could then try the double-layer chocolate Safeway
cake./p>
Speaking about Saint Patrick's Day, we talked about it last time you saw me two days ago. St.
Paddy's Day is on March 17th every year, that’s a Monday this year. I said above that I hope
Safeway will have the same Saint Patrick's Day cookies again this year that I got last year, and
I hope that I will get to enjoy them this year not like at this time last year after we had that
one altercation that I describe above. You know I’d rather have my food when I can enjoy it not
like the times such as when my parents had that fish and chips in Ocean Shores, Washington state
or just last year when I had a Valentines Day cake from Safeway at the
time when I was constipated. Anyway, the Saint Patrick's Day cookies I’m
referring to are the Lofthouse brand moist sugar cookies that are white iced and have green
sprinkles. Not long after I finished those Saint Patrick's Day cookies last year, we got some
Lofthouse moist sugar spring cookies from Safeway that were green iced with sprinkles. You could
get those spring cookies either green or yellow iced. At most of the occasions when these
cookies are put out, we can only find them at Safeway except last year at Halloween
(Halloween 2007) the Lofthouse moist sugar cookies were put out at both Safeway and Save-On but
we got these from Safeway again because the Safeway ones looked more appetizing than the Save-On
ones. We even tried making some of our own round sugar moist cookies last summer (summer
2007) which were green iced and we added sprinkles to them, but my mom made them a bit
higher/taller and not quite as big around as the Lofthouse brand ones and my mom’s were also
a bit harder (or a bit less moist in other words) than the Lofthouse ones. Anyway, now we
know for next time when my mom tries to bake these kind of cookies...You don’t know whether or
not they’ll turn out exactly the way you want them until you try baking them, you just have to
try a few more times until you succeed.
So St. Paddy's Day coming up in just over one week from now, the green
holiday .
And you’d know that Kermit’s my favorite muppet of All Time if you know that green is my happy
colour. I never thought about the fact that the colour on the 7UP bottle is green until after I
told you two days ago that Coke use to be my favorite kind of pop until I switched to 7UP a few
years ago when I started having the stomach problems. And before then, I use to always get a
milkshake to drink with my meal whenever I went out for meals but now I just get 7UP with my
meals and have milkshakes for separate afternoon snacks after learning that a milkshake with a
meal seemed like a bit too much for my stomach to handle at once. The 7UP itself isn’t actually
green, but do you know that there’s a kind of pop I like that actually is green...Remember I
told you about Lime Crush in the message I sent you on Wednesday Feb.27,2008.
I had another piece of Angel food cake last night for my dessert after supper, my mom got
some more fresh strawberries when she was at the grocery store the day before so that I could
have strawberries and whipping cream with my cake again. The other can of whipping cream was
thawed out in time so I got to use that one last night instead of the one my dad bought. Did you
read the first PS
yet in the other
message, if you did you’ll know what I’m talking about. And my mom
didn’t tell me until after I sent you that same message last Wednesday that if we run out of
fresh strawberries she could buy me some more because they were on sale at the grocery store so
I then asked her why she didn’t tell me before I sent the message so that I could tell you this
then and not even say about eating any cake that’s left just plain with a fork. She then
responded quote, “because I just thought of it then.” I’ll have another piece of the cake with
strawberries and whipping cream for my dessert after supper tomorrow night, but that will
probably be my last piece of the Angel food cake even if there’s more of that cake left after
tomorrow incase I end up getting an Easter cake in a couple weeks from now. I usually prefer to
have cake no more often than at least two weeks apart. I told you that there were both white and
chocolate cookies in that green tin of ROYAL DANSK Danish cookies that I got for Christmas and
that we weren’t sure whether or not the white ones were made from sugar, my mom now thinks they
aren’t sugar cookies so it’ll probably be okay to have those anytime when or after I have any
Lofthouse moist cookies that I get but again I’ll probably wait at least two weeks after the
Walkers brand shortbread cookies are gone before I open this tin. My dad stopped at Costco this
morning on his way home from the dentist to pick up a few things including the kind of plain
white napkins I prefer which are the “white swan” brand and my mom also had my dad pick up a
bottle of cranberry juice because cranberry juice is usually cheaper at Costco. We were
completely out of cranberry juice last Thursday (the 6th) and I had finished off what we
had with my afternoon snack the day before, so my mom just got one bottle when she was at the
grocery store that same day. The grocery store didn’t have any cranberry juice on sale that day,
again Costco usually sells their's cheaper than the
grocery stores. Before Costco though and after my dad left the dentist, he stopped at the little
Safeway in Fleetwood at 152nd Street and 88th Avenue to pick me up one of my seafood salads for
supper tonight. He even checked this time to see that it had shrimp in it. The Fleetwood
location didn’t have any donuts, so after Costco my dad stopped at the Safeway where you
regularly shop at 138th and 72nd where he got me a sprinkled donut (one of the standard
round ones with a hole in the middle, not a long john) to have for dessert after my salad. This
donut has both yellow and pink sprinkles, you know that some Safeway locations have both yellow
and pink sprinkles on their donuts while others just have pink. I had the last four whole pieces
of my Terry’s Chocolate Orange for my afternoon snack today. You know that the last few times I
had five pieces of orange, so today I had two of the milk chocolate polar ice chocolates with my
four pieces of orange.
I took a picture two evenings ago after you left of the house that my mom built in the family
room for our cats. And I discovered last night the blue cat spring on top of the small cat in
our downstairs computer room (not office, at our house we call it the “computer room”).
Don’t know how long it’s been there for, was your plan to wait and see how long it would be
before I discover it? The green cat spring on the dog’s head only lasted a day, I managed though
to get a picture of the blue spring on the cat last night. As soon as I download the pictures,
I’ll send you both the one of the house my mom built and the one of the blue spring on the cat
and again I haven’t downloaded anything off my camera since before Christmas.
And here is the URL to download that other ZIP file I was talking about including the front
cover image for the PC game “Colin McRae Rally:”
http://
I never thought about having my own MySpace page. And don’t you think it’s kind of ridiculous
that some of those other sites make you pay to download background images (or “also known
as” desktop wallpapers)? I don’t know if you agree with me but they’re just background images if
you understand what I’m trying to get at, so why charge for them. And what if you only wanted
say just one image off one of those sites, would you go as far as to pay for something like this
and not rather spend your money towards a CD full of images.
My camera is a “Sony DVD Camcorder (DCRDVD505)” and my dad’s that he bought himself for
Christmas a few months ago is a “Canon PowerShot
SxIS.” Both my dad’s new camera and his other camera
he had that broke before he bought his new one can only take three minutes of video while my
Sony can take up to 30 minutes, but my dad’s new camera can take better quality still pictures
than my Sony.
My dad use to always borrow my uncle’s (his brother, Gordon’s) electric power washer whenever
he wanted to power wash until after that one broke when my dad went out a few years ago from now
and bought his own gas one. The make of the motor in the gas one that he bought is the same make
as the motor that’s in our lawnmower, the next model up when he bought this one had a Honda
motor but that would have been a bit more expensive than the one he got. Remember in the message
I sent you on Friday Feb.8,2008 I told you that we loaned Carol our power washer one summer
within the last few years and that’s just one of the many reasons why I feel so close to her and
consider her as family because at different times we had also loaned her a few of our other
things.
I already knew that the time change is this weekend before my mom said it to you before you
left two days ago, the evening before (Wednesday evening March the 5th) she told me that
she had remembered that the time change is this weekend.
My dad talked to my grandpa (his dad) on the phone that same evening (Thursday the
6th). My dad teased my grandpa about them (my parents) trading properties with my aunt
and uncle (my dad’s sister and her husband, Ann and Les) when my dad retires because they
live on a farm. You know that the price of food keeps getting more expensive right now, it would
be cheaper if you could grow your own food.
Last Wednesday evening (March the 5th) we heard a big truck a couple times when we
were having supper. It sounded so loud and so close that it sounded like it was driving down our
back alley. We even heard it stop for a few minutes the second time we heard it. And if it was
in our alley, I don’t know what a big truck would be doing in our alley on a Wednesday.
My dad put his ring on the wrong finger last Sunday afternoon (the 2nd) and it
wouldn’t come off until he put his hand in some soapy water to help the ring slide off.
My mom heated up one of her frozen pizzas for her and my dad’s supper last night. My mom had
trouble getting the pizza box open before she put the pizza in the oven so she called my dad to
come help her. When he tried to open the pizza box, he accidentally knocked over an empty glass
that was on the counter. It fell to the floor and broke. And this wasn’t a wineglass, just an
ordinary drinking glass.
Three of the goldfish in my dad’s tub on our deck are getting too big for that tub so he
might give all three of them to a guy at his work named Francis who has a small pond of his own
because we got enough fish in our own pond right now.
I caught a bit of the 5 o’clock news two days ago on Thursday after you left. They showed an
update to the story I first told you about in the message I sent you on Wednesday Feb.27,2008:
> If you got the message I sent you yesterday, remember I said that I had a news story for
you but I was getting tired and
> you told me not to rush into things. My mom told me that she saw on yesterday’s Noon News the
story about the male
> in his late teens who was found dead near a house in Surrey. They suspect that it was a drug
house...
The male has now been identified as 14-year-old Justin Vasey. As you can see in the above
excerpt, we thought he was older.
If I don't send you another E-mail tomorrow, I’ll see you on Monday at 1PM. My mom saw the
latest weather forecast as of now and they say that Monday’s suppose to be rainy, unless this
forecast changes I’ll be disappointed again that we won’t get out for a walk. And we’ll probably
stay home for my snack that afternoon, I’m thinking about having some green grapes.
-Neil
P.S. The Safeway flyer came in today’s paper. My mom
looked in there a few minutes ago and they didn’t really show anything for either Easter cake or
St. Paddy's Day cookies.
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