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Hi Neil.
While a couple of letters may not solve your problem at least it's a start .It seems you
think Carol would lie about her feelings .I think its only human nature to forgive . Maybe
because you find it hard to forgive you think Carol may be like this. I only know a few people
who find it difficult to forgive. Two years have gone by with nothing being done. Your ideas of
your family or realtors telling Carol to come back to work with you would only make her feel
justified in not having any contact with you. However if you ever did realise that you're
responsible for your actions you could see the logic in writing and eventually
apologising.However if you just say it and don't really mean it it won't help anything.
You said you didn't take any responsibility for the altercation with Carol. You blame your
mom forgetting sunscreen . That doesn't make it ok for you to be abusive. You are responsible
for your actions . If people went around using circumstances as an excuse things would be a
real mess.Neil your an adult and should be taking stock of your own sunscreen .I see you feel
bad about saying things about her daughters. Saying that shows that you are sorry for part of
it.
The ministry didn't fire Carol as she quit her job working with you.You know Carol was a paid
support .Thats the difference between her and family .Family are not paid to be with you.the
Ministry does not hire family members.Even though Carol said "we're family" she's not. People
sometimes say these things to make people feel good during times of stress. Or even just to make
someone feel at ease.If you we're family Carol would have sought a resolution long ago.A friend
or family provide support with no money exchanging hands. I don't think Carol was hired directly
from the ministry . I think you paid her through individualised funding .That is the ministry g
ave your family the money and they paid her. If Carol was to request some hours from the
Ministry to work with you they would not hire her. A whole lot of things would have to happen
before that ever took place. The first thing being that you contact Carol .Neil ,I don't think
Carol will be a paid support for you again .She's protecting her family by staying away .She's
taken your threats seriously and doesn't want to take any chances. You have to take the first
step or it will probably just continue like this.
Looking forward to Thursday . It;s going to be nice
. Is it a connect four day?..email me back if you want ...cheers..John
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