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Hi Neil
Well you certainly have brought Carol up again.We've gone through the Carol
thing and you know my thoughts on it. As long as you continue to blame your parents and not take
responsibility nothing will change.Even fantasizing about a chance encounter between your
parents and Carol we're they basically make her come back to work with you will not make
anything change .Avoiding your friends won't change anything.If Kris wanted to talk to Carol and
have a relationship with her he would call her up. He hasn't so I don't think he does.You've
decided to cut off your relatives and not talk to them .
The only thing you could do to make a change or at least know the truth is to apologise to
Carol and let her know how you feel.I honestly don't know if that would make Carol want to work
with you again. The Ministry would let her work with you again unless she had taken some
courses such as Non Violent Crisis Intervention .Carol was not prepared for what happened . If
she was you wouldn't even know me .She would realise how important it is to resolve the
altercation that happened. She would have stepped up and had a meeting with you to resolve it or
to tell you in person that she could no longer work with you. Even if she were afraid of you she
could have had support people with her,Instead she left it unresolved and you suffer with ideas
and fantasies about getting back together with her. I'm disapointed in her non action.If Carol
was more skilled the altercation may have never taken place.
I've already told you that I think you don't contact her because of the chance she may say no
to you. Neil, she's saying no to you by not having anything to do with you .I know you don't see
that but if you did you could start to move on. There isn't anything positive about hanging on
to Carol when you won't even talk to her .
OK..well , thats a heavy email , I'm hoping you'll be ok with it .If not please let me know
and i'll discuss it in person with you next time.
Neil , your a great guy and one day things will
change for the better. You'll see...Cheers..John
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