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Hi Neil, thanks for
your email
I'll begin with a quote from your email sent on Jan
13/
"And I know you also said that the FVMH would be
pleased to hear that I got a second worker, but does it need to happen before the next time that
we meet with them? I’d give you up just so someone new (Larry) could come at the times
that work for both him and I."
So if I read that correctly it basically says you dont
want a second worker until after we meet with them .I asked you on Thursday before our heavy
talk If you were ok with Larry and I working together.I think that discussion was necessary as
its important to find a solution so your parents can have more time together .Perhaps if Larry
came Mondays and I came Wenrsdays and Fridays your Dad could use flex time on Friday and make it
a longer weekend .Now that I know your ok with Sundays in later February I may work on the
Sundays. This would probably only work until the Spring. So that means Larry on Monday and
myself on Thursday and Sunday .I will see if Larry could do an occaisional Sunday.
heres the next quote
"And I never said that I didn’t want to have more
hours than the amount of time that you and I spend together every week."
Thats a little confusing...i think you mean if our
hours were extended on the days we see each other?
You are saying you dont want more hours on different days by having this no two days in a row
idea.
heres the next quote
"You thought that I’ve been making excuses to get back at my mom
and dad for ending my relationship with Carol by not letting someone new work with me. I don’t
understand why you would promote such a heavy conversation and mention the idea about revisiting
the option of moving out if I’m willing to give Larry a try. Larry is someone new. Did I not say
in the E-mail I sent you on Tuesday that I’d agree to give up you if we can’t think up another
scenario that would allow me to let him come on the days that work for him? I would’ve told you
by now if I didn’t want to work with Larry. And I really enjoy working with you and I wouldn’t
want to see it end."
I agree that Larry is someone new and its great that your letting him get to know you. Giving
me up and having Larry work with instead with hours that worked for you would be a change
.However it doesn't help with giving your parents more time together which is what we're trying
to do. How would Larry working with you with the guidelines you have set up give your parents
more time together? unless I;m missing something.
Neil , I also like working with you and wouldn't want to see it end .
I hope you realise I initiated the heavy conversation so we can explore lots of options . The
living independently question was to see what you think about it at this time. We hadn't talked
about it for a long time because extra hours with another worker was going to work instead.
I think your a great guy and believe that we can sort all of this out eventually
cheers..John
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